Unresolved conflict can be most stressful around the holiday season. Here are some of my thoughts which may assist some of you.
Common causes of family conflict
It is well recognised that some of the stages a family goes through can cause conflict. These may include:
Each of these stages can create new and different stresses and potential conflict. Changes in the family situation can also take a toll on the family and contribute to conflict. This may include events such as:
The opinions, values and needs of each parent can also change and they may find they are no longer compatible.
Usually, our first angry impulse is to push the point that we are right and win the argument at any cost. Finding a peaceful resolution can be difficult, if not impossible, when both parties stubbornly stick to their guns. It helps if everyone decides as a family to try listening to each other and negotiating instead. Suggestions include:
Conflict can escalate when the people involved are too angry to listen to each other. Misunderstandings fuel arguments. Suggestions include:
Once both parties understand the views and feelings of the other, you can work out a solution together. Suggestions include:
There are services available to help family members work through difficult issues of conflict. Seek professional advice if you think you need some assistance.
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